I'm sorry to hear that you're having trouble connecting to your SQL Server 2008 R2. Here are some steps you can try to troubleshoot the issue:
1. Check if the SQL Server service is running on the server.
2. Make sure that the SQL Server instance is configured to allow remote connections.
3. Verify that the firewall on the server is not blocking incoming connections on the SQL Server port (default is 1433).
4. Ensure that the SQL Server Browser service is running on the server.
5. Check if the SQL Server instance is using dynamic ports, and if so, make sure that the SQL Server Browser service is able to resolve the correct port number.
If none of these steps work, you may need to consult with a database administrator or IT professional for further assistance.